the first week of summer vacation has come to an end. We are starting the second week and Rocket has hit the ground running.
Last week, he did basketball shooting camp and basketball league. He and 2 of his friends wanted to be on the same team for basketball, but they were placed on different teams. This picture is from Friday, when Rocket's team played the blue team. The red team played before the green and blue team, so the boys hung out as they could around the games. Rocket's team has a 3-1 record, the red team has 3-1 record and the blue team has 1-3 record. The boys have one game today and then go into 2 days of championships.
Interesting note on the boys, Red and Blue are both older than Rocket by almost a year. Notice that Rocket is the tallest. Rocket will 12 in August and I can really see the teenager he is becoming. And, I can see the teenager in his behavior. We had a hard week of behavior issues last week. I know that it is related to the change from school to summer and the lingering affects of the adoption process. This is always a hard time of the year. Last Friday and Saturday, he told me that he did not want to be part of this family any more and he did not love anyone. I was exhausted and I did not handle it well at all. we are both in a better place as of Sunday. My one linger concern is that he will not tell me what is bothering him the most. Until he can get to the point of actually telling me what he is feeling or what is the biggest issue, he just explodes. Right now, due to his behavior on Saturday, he has lost access to his computer and his IPad. he is not happy with me at all.
Saturday morning, before the storm of emotions hit, we went to the symphony. We loved it. It was superhero themed. One of the best performances we have seen at the symphony. They had the children's theater of Cincinnati performing a play in the front while the symphony played. The kids did great, the music was great. it was so engaging.
After this, we went home and had to cut the grass. Rocket was supposed to cut the front on Friday, but he wanted to wait until Saturday. We got home, we changed clothes, and then we headed out. I cut the back grass while he does the front. I have 2/3 more to cut than he does, and I have more obstacles, and the front is all flat. Usually it takes me 30 minutes to cut the back, while the front takes at most 15 minutes. I finished the back and then went out front to help Rocket finish the front. In the 30 minutes I had been in the back, he had done 4 rows in the front- he was less than 1/4 of the way done. I finished it all, made him sweep up grass on the sidewalk and driveway. He had no clue why I was mad- at least that is what he said. It was a long afternoon. this is when he decided he wanted out of this family. He even went so far as to take one of our family pictures out of the frame (in his room) and put the picture on my bed.
We had a discussion about being in a family and how our family is a team. if one person does not do their part, then the other person has to do it all. Because of not doing his part, he lost privileges of having the I Pad and computer.
He was much more helpful on Sunday, so I think he just needed to get it out of his system. He also took the picture back and put it back in the frame in his room.
If this is what the teenage years are going to be like, it is going to be a long struggle. I am hopeful things don't go like this all the time, perhaps it will only be in June when the change in schedule and anniversary comes around that things will go south for a few days. I can hope and pray.
Me and the boy
One of the basketball games. I think this is Wednesday. Rocket is the shooter.
Rocket is basketball skills camp this week during the morning, so no pictures from this week's camp. the weather has also turned hot and humid, so I don't think he will be going outside to play after camp. I am going to try to get him to the pool for some swimming this week just to help cool down after camp and to help wear him out some more.
Love and hugs,
Deb
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